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Designing Women - Part VI

Written by: Brandon Fisher

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Sometimes my brain likes to play practical jokes on me just to see how I will recover.  I was at a bar one time and was approached by a bachelorette party. They were beyond hammered and were trying to talk to me. One had those purple stained wine teeth, one had her buttons in the wrong holes and one had so much eyeliner on her lashes they formed only 4 or 5 points, so it looked like a venus flytrap was eating her eye – anyways - I was not particularly interested in any of them. So for some reason my brain decided, when signaling a vocal response from my mouth, it should be in a British accent. I should probably mention I cannot do a proper British accent. Every time I try I sound like an 1800’s orphan chimney sweep. The thing I didn’t immediately connect with is that women LOVE accents, which made them want to talk to me more. That is – until they introduced me to their British friend who immediately called my bluff and asked where I was from. I said Brighton. She asked which part. I said, "near the beach" and ran off. 

Have you ever noticed when you are talking to someone with a foreign accent you gradually begin mimicking their speech patterns. There are several studies that explain we do this to better understand the person we are talking to. It’s a way two people can bridge their differences to connect at a closer level. I think men and women do similar things. I pretend I am interested in Reality TV and they pretend to laugh at my jokes. It’s a symbiotic relationship. We have to create bridges because men and women are so different. In fact, we may be more different than previously thought.

“A new analysis of personality tests taken by 10,000 men and women in America has found there is only a 10% overlap between the sexes where they share the same kind of personalities. At the very best there is less than a 25% share and the sex divide has been “consistently underestimated.” When comparing men’s and women’s overall personality profiles using the new method very large differences between the sexes became apparent. ‘We believe we have made it clear that the true extent of sex differences in human personality has been consistently underestimated.’ Women scored higher than men on Sensitivity (sensitive, aesthetic, sentimental), Warmth (warm, outgoing and attentive to others) and Apprehension (apprehensive, self-doubting and worrying.) Men outscored women on Dominance (dominant, forceful, aggressive) and Emotional Stability (emotionally stable, adaptive, mature).”

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